For me, it has never been a choice. I am who I am. Others have decided to try and live a life where they deny that part of themselves and work themselves into believing they are no longer gay and living a straight life. I am fortunate enough that I have never felt that pressure to be anything but me.

That is not true for a lot of people.

Mother Jones has a lengthy article about the science of sexual identity. Unfortunately, the ex gay movement is alive and well. Their shrinks are trying to advance the argument that you can choose to be a different sexuality. The article is worth reading and will make you think. Here is snippet:

But as crucial as this consensus has been to the struggle for gay rights, it may not be as sound as some might wish. While scientists have found intriguing biological differences between gay and straight people, the evidence so far stops well short of proving that we are born with a sexual orientation that we will have for life. Even more important, some research shows that sexual orientation is more fluid than we have come to think, that people, especially women, can and do move across customary sexual orientation boundaries, that there are ex-straights as well as ex-gays. Much of this research has stayed below the radar of the culture warriors, but reparative therapists are hoping to use it to enter the scientific mainstream and advocate for what they call the right of self-determination in matters of sexual orientation. If they are successful, gay activists may soon find themselves scrambling to make sense of a new scientific and political landscape.

Putting too much stock in the science of being gay has never seemed like a wise plan. Science makes many advances, but rarely can explain everything, not to mention how long it takes to make advances in any particular field of research.

We are going to advance our cause the most by talking about ourselves as fully fleshed out humans, not a scientific discussion of genetics. Not to mention the straights, particularly when they affirm that they never chose to be straight. It is just who they are.